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A Merry Christmas

My Christmas holiday was enjoyable. I spent it at my parents’ house, spending a lot of time with family this year. My mom’s older brother and his wife were down from Oregon. I hadn’t seen them since New Year’s Eve in 2005, just a few days after the husband and I eloped. There was a mini-family reunion Thursday afternoon for lunch, with my mom’s twin1, his wife and son, the oldest brother and his wife, my brother and his girlfriend, myself and my parents.

From there, I headed over to my friend’s apartment to meet up with my group of friends known as Marinara2. I was a little late so I was only able to participate in one round of Telestrations, but afterwards we headed over to a part of the SFV3 where a bunch of homes in one neighborhood really go all-out with their yard decorations – they call it Candlight Lane. One house had a giant inflatable bear, decked out in Hanukkah garb. We immediately referred to him as Jew Bear. There were people selling light-up toys up & down the streets and it was quite the popular spot that night! I can’t imagine being a homeowner in that neighborhood. It was especially awesome, since one of our friends was in town for the holiday from D.C., where she’s working & going to school right now.

Friday was the usual tradition of going to my uncle’s house for tamales with my dad’s family. Everyone got a baggie of big, chewy chocolate chip cookies, a reindeer ornament and the recipe for the cookies. We sat around the giant fire pit in the backyard they just recently put in for most of the night.

Christmas day was opening of presents, breakfast by my parents and then a visit with some of the husband’s family.

Speaking of the husband, he drove me up to L.A. on Wednesday, drove back down to S.D. Thursday morning, back to L.A. Friday night and we drove home to S.D. together Saturday night. Talk about a lot of driving! I had planned on staying out until Sunday, but I thought I’d give the guy a break.

Wait, what happened to having my wisdom tooth extracted? It got postponed until the end of January. Although I was eager to have it over with, I’m grateful I was able to eat over the holiday. Not to mention, it’s our wedding anniversary on Wednesday, so to be able to for sure eat solids for a decent dinner is something I’m happy for. We’ll be celebrating 5 years of marriage! Wow… Not that the last one has been particularly great4, hopefully there will be MANY more, and they’ll be LOTS better.

I made off with:

  • A sewing machine
  • An IOU of help towards the trip to Costa Rica for the husband’s dad’s wedding.
  • Harry Potter behind-the-scenes book (thanks, Tay-Tay!)
  • Long john PJs
  • Cashmere scarf
  • Various bath products
  • A decent amount of cash & gift cards
  • Chocolates

If you celebrate Christmas, how did it turn out?

  1. Didn’t you know? She’s a fraternal twin! ↩
  2. We’re saucy! ↩
  3. San Fernando Valley ↩
  4. Do-over, please? ↩
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Curiosity Killed The Cat

And often times, satisfaction won’t bring it back. That’s what I’m learning more often than not.

I have this insufferable curiosity that leads me to want to spy and snoop and have some sort of eye or ear on certain people. That would be the only reason I keep people as “friends” on such sites as Facebook or MySpace1. The MIL recently requested me as a friend on Facebook again, and for the fuck of it, I added her back. What’s one of the first things I see on her wall when it takes me to her profile? Her recent addition of a certain husband’s ex-girlfriend as a friend and their correspondence. I really shouldn’t get so up in arms over it, since it’s really not doing me any good getting all irritated and angry, but how can I help that? Seeing that girl’s face brings up a wave of anger and insecurity in me. Not to mention, she’s much preferred by the husband’s family than I am.

It reminds me that I’m kind of fighting a seemingly endless battle. That’s usually how I end up feeling when I keep an eye on these types of people – that or I’m missing out. Either way, I don’t feel good and I need to stop. It’s masochistic, what this curiosity does to me, and I know at least one other friend who suffers from the same affliction and ends up feeling as I do. WE NEED TO STOP!

OR! Anybody care to try and Eternal Sunshine this bitch out of the husband’s and his family’s minds? :D Mine too… Don’t forget me. I really want to forget other people who ended up having nothing but a negative impact on my life, as well.

Does anyone else have a problem with their curiosity getting them into trouble, either with other people or with themselves?

  1. Yes, I still have a MySpace, but I rarely use it. ↩
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I Am Not Amused

If I am being disrespected about the same thing, or from the same source, persistently – even in the form of jesting – I am not laughing or accepting it. It doesn’t matter if you’re my best friend or family. Apparently my mother-in-law and the husband’s (ex) step-mom find it totally okay and appropriate to encourage him to seek a relationship with his ex-girlfriend and in general act like I don’t actually exist as his wife.

I accept that they don’t like me, for both valid and ridiculous reasons. While I never really disliked them, I didn’t take much effort in trying to integrate myself well enough as part of their family. I found it difficult to work against the impression they already had of me and the fact that his family is so much different from mine. All in all, there’s enough on both sides that led to a lack of decent relationship with each other. Needless to say, there’s a lot of fake smiles and niceties that occur when we’re face-to-face. However, I don’t expect I deserve the kind of disrespect they’ve displayed towards me in the past year or so.

As much as I’d weed them out of my life at this point, that’s kind of difficult considering I’m still married to their (step)son, and that won’t change, not in the near future anyway. So they get to deal, I get to deal. At least I can un-friend them from my Facebook and keep them from seeing any possible future things I say that could upset them. *rollseyes*

It does seem that there’s enough going on in my life that I’m not happy about. That’s pretty annoying. I’m thankful that I enjoy work! At least not everything sucks. I have that as an escape, even if it happens to be a bad day at work. It’s only one day and every day is different :)

I’m still suffering with my wisdom tooth. It’s kind of difficult to find a dentist open on the weekend that is accepting patients and takes the right insurance. I’ll have better luck come Monday, hopefully!

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Thankfulness Is The Beginning of Gratitude

I have plenty to be upset and worry about. As an adult trying to make my way through the world while working on a marriage, that’s just what life is. However, there are tons of things I’m very thankful for and never for one moment forget about them, even if I don’t give as much acknowledgement to them as I should.

I’m thankful for…

  • My family. They’re supporting and loving no matter what.
  • My friends. Offline & on! They’re a 2nd family to me, the true & closest ones.
  • My friends & coworkers still serving in the military, especially the ones who are currently oversees and away from their own family & friends for not only the time they’re over there, but over the holiday season.
  • The husband’s and my jobs. For what we do, we’re paid relatively well and our jobs are secure so long as we continue to perform. Not to mention, my current coworkers are pretty darn awesome!
  • Gunny, my awesome cat. While she has her annoying quirks, she’s my cat and I love her!
  • Not having to work on Black Friday. A coworker contacted me on Wednesday to ask if she could take my shift and I was grateful to give it to her since that meant we wouldn’t have to drive back Thursday night so I could be at work at 10am.

Thanksgiving was very nice. It was held at my uncle’s wife’s brother’s house, so my uncle-in-law, but not from my marriage to the husband *lol*. There were about 20 people over, give or take a few, so there was a lot to eat. I only had one plate of food in addition to a sandwich and some h’ors d’oeuvres earlier in the afternoon. The husband had a work appointment during the day and either because of that or telling his family he just wasn’t up to it, we didn’t travel around to see his family this year. They probably think I have something to do with it and dislike me even further :| .

Surprisingly, there were some basic traditional foods missing from the spread this year! There were at least 4 different types of dressing/stuffing1, but no mashed potatoes or green bean casserole. The husband was upset he didn’t get his green bean casserole this year. I’m thinking of going grocery shopping, preparing it with a holiday-type dinner sometime this week. The casserole, ham, mashed potatoes… Sounds nice, right?

The apartment is terribly chilly, but I want to avoid turning the heater on if I can get warm enough with blankets, sweaters and my blanket-with-sleeves. It wasn’t pleasant walking into the chilly place coming from outside which was also chilly. Apparently the bedroom is especially chilly which means, the window’s at least cracked, I think. The husband didn’t feel up to checking it out, though. How nice of him, right?

  1. Whichever you prefer to call the concoction lol. ↩
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Scrub In

Anytime I go to the doctor’s office, I find myself looking at the scrubs the nurses and doctors wear. I’m always entertained by the different, more festive medical scrubs nurses tend to have, especially if they deal with children more often than adults. They always have great prints and colors. I’ve always been curious if they simply buy them off the rack that awesome, have them made or make ‘em themselves.

My Aunt-In-Law is currently in school to become an RN. I’ve seen her in scrubs, including a lab coat, only a few times. As far as I could tell, she kept her scrubs rather simple and traditional. It makes me wonder if it’s part of the hospital or the school medical uniforms, or if she has any say in the matter.

My Mother-In-Law is also intending on going a similar route as her sister, so I can’t wait until they’re both through with all the hard work and long hours of schooling to see them in the field, helping folks get well, and maybe… even hopefully… cheering them up at the same time with a pair of cute scrubs on!

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