Wise words of encouragement that my dad has been telling me since I joined the Air Force in 2005. I sometimes forget it, but it brings me back to what matters when I finally remember.

I’m still battling hurt and angry feelings all the while trying to figure out how to keep drama at bay on my end. It’s quite hard to figure out how to balance that. I’ve expressed hurt and anger in, really, as civilized manner as anyone could1, I’m not being fought for and I’m made to feel like the bad guy so I need to “stop” and start “acting like an adult”. What am I supposed to do? Calmly go up to them and tell them how I feel and expect an apology? Perhaps I could have tried that, but I’ve almost always been able to tell when and with whom that would work, and it wasn’t here, with them.

That last phrase has really ruffled some feathers of mine lately. To be honest, there isn’t any particular guideline for acting like one when it comes to stuff like this. Yes, there are obviously childish ways of handling things and there are ways to increase the drama tenfold, but I don’t think I’ve been particularly guilty of those. My friends have told me I’ve handled it all so much better and with much more restraint than they would’ve, so why am I made to feel like I’m in the wrong? It makes me that much more angrier.

In the meantime, I broke the husband’s phone so he’s had mine and I’ll hopefully have a new one by Tuesday. Thank God for insurance! We’ve never paid into it before, but the husband was smart since we got our Android phones and opted in. It’s already been used once.

Work is going. I’m feeling much more confident and capable in the position I’m trying to get my raise in. Since one of our shift managers had his baby early and is on paternity leave, we’ve had to borrow other higher levels from other stores. The last night I worked, it was pretty hectic and the two guys both made comments that it looks like I’m ready for my raise or they wouldn’t believe I didn’t have it already. I was nervous when my manager told me she’d have to observe me with a strong cook during a rush and I didn’t think I’d be ready. I think I am. As long as I stay focused to getting the job done and keep my priorities in order!

I guess now would be a good time to finish laundry… All the folding & hanging & putting away of it. Blech.

BTW, How do you deal with drama that comes your way? Have any tips?

  1. Occasional glaring at and blowing off steam to my friends about the offending party.