We Need To Talk…
How do you recover from a bad break-up? The proverbial pint of ice cream? Quality time alone? Going out with friends? What are your personal healing strategies?
It’s been quite a while since I’ve gone through a break-up. The first break-up I remember, in middle school, I thought was amicable (I initiated) until I walked past him telling a few other girls some crap about me. That was bizarre! I just kept walking, completely baffled.
The next break-up was from his end while I took it, I wanted to at least remain friends and he ended up treating me like the plague. I had no idea why he disliked me so much. Apparently, I was found tolerable enough to date for a while and then once we weren’t together, I was the most annoying creature on the planet.
Lastly in middle school was the guy I had my first kiss with and I pretty much fell head-over-heels for him. Unfortunately it was purely a physical relationship with me on his end. He just wouldn’t be my boyfriend, but he’d make out with me behind the buildings after school. This tore me up, especially when he ended up going out with one of my friends. I was always crying and so self-absorbed about it. Needless to say, my first real heartbreak wasn’t dealt with very well. Looking back on it, I feel so embarrassed about it. As far as the stereotypical “female goes chasing the pint of ice cream”, that’s not me. I tend to go the opposite way and don’t feel up to eating at all lol. I just want to be left alone, be all emo with my music and cry it out (or at that time, write it out as well lol).
High school relationships were all over the place – the first I can’t remember who broke up with whom, but we kind of remained friends until his behavior just got more stupid (as stupid as boys who seem to have just found their penis can get 
). The 2nd, I only went out with him for a couple of days and broke it off. If I ever got a preview into what it would’ve been like to be in a relationship with a clinger, it was that one. I was fearful when it came to breaking up with him! He had a reputation that preceded him and I didn’t pay it attention. After I broke up with him, at one point, he threw my backpack up on a school building. I had actually done my homework the night before, and I never do my homework! Lastly was my first high school sweetheart.
That went on & off forever. I broke up with him the first time, then it was mutual the 2nd time. Finally, I wanted back together with him and I did everything I could think of to make him want to be with me again. It finally worked, but after working so hard and being so hung up on him for so long, I’d finally moved on and turned him down. The timing never seemed right 
Minus a short stint with a guy at my 2nd high school, I met my husband and well, we’ve had our “break-up level” issues, but we’re together and working things out and so far so good.
