The past few weeks have been very trying for me. Some serious issues came to a head in my relationship. I’ve felt out of control of everything suddenly. Things have been tough for both of us with the moving, transitioning to a new work place, amongst other things.

In the process of finding ways of working things out in the relationship, I’ve come to the realization (with the help of personalized feedback, reading and reflection) that I do have control. I have control over what I can do for myself.

For instance, today, thanks to my BFF, I’ve become that kind of person that seems to always have something physically wrong with them – and I make it known. Almost every ache, pain & ill I experience, I whine about it. I’ve hated these types of people for as long as I can remember and I’ve morphed into one of them. Just because I’m feeling under the weather or achey, I don’t need to whine about it. Nobody wants to hear about it. I’ll take care of myself the best I can and work through it – just like anybody else. There’s no point in dwelling on something that’ll pass within hours or days.

Something else I need to work on is taking the initiative to do anything productive. Working out, making phone calls, and doing anything else that could be productive.

While working on my weaknesses, it’ll help to remember my strengths which include my compassion, intelligence (which is random lol), and resilience.

Overall, being a stronger, more assertive and more independent person may help my relationship, but it will definitely help me as my own person ultimately. Working on the root of most of my problems can only change all of the smaller ones and things should fall into place, one way or another.

What are some of your strengths? What’s something you’re working on improving about yourself?